Picture a baby. A tiny, brand new, innocent baby. They are untouched by society and the values and the rules put forth by everyone else. They have their own sense of being. Notice how when a baby wants something, they are so expressive about it. They will cry and scream until they get what it is they want. Their subconscious mind is wide open to absorb all the information.
As they grow, and get exposed to their parents, the media, their family, the people around them, all the beliefs of these people are instilled into the baby. How does this happen? When an infant does something that is considered wrong, like paint on the walls of the house, the parents will discipline them and tell them that they cannot do things like that. This happens for so many circumstances that the child absorbs throughout their childhood, such as eating habits, clothes, school, relationships, everything.
When the child gets older and reaches their teenage years, they have absorbed years of information from everyone around them and this has become their subconscious mind. One thing to note is that the subconscious is formed not only by listening, but also by observing. So, let’s say the parents of this kid always told them to get along with everyone and be nice, but the parents fought a lot amongst themselves and portrayed an unhealthy relationship in front of the child, this goes on to form a belief in the child that relationships with the opposite sex are unsafe and lead to fighting and they might have unhealthy relationships as adults because it feels familiar.
Children observe and absorb everything around them. They even learn extremely important life lessons from the simplest things like plants! This age is when your subconscious is formed. Notice any beliefs you have now that were formed in your childhood that paved the way for how you live your life today. Maybe you saw your parents fighting, or maybe you saw them have the perfect relationship, maybe you were told not to express yourself and every time you cried you were told to be strong, notice why you act the way you do.
This noticing might take time and effort, but if it leads you to the root cause that sits in your subconscious mind, it can be changed for yourself and you might even be mindful of how you raise future generations and pass on these beliefs.